20 Dating Red Flags

 Photo: By Wereon (Original by Nikodemos.), Wikimedia Commons

Photo: By Wereon (Original by Nikodemos.), Wikimedia Commons

Red flags are warning signs you see, hear, or feel that tell you something might be very wrong in your relationship. All too often we ignore them or rationalize them away saying things like "it's not that big of a deal" or "I know they'll change" or even "but I love them so much". Unfortunately, looking away and pretending they don't exist usually only leads you down a dangerous and heartbreaking road. So, if you see red flags in your relationship, DON'T IGNORE THEM. Talk about them. Ask a good friend if they see them also. Don't always assume something is a red flag; sometimes our own fear and insecurity can play tricks on us. But if you confirm that the flag really is red, then you need to get out and move on.

Here are 20 common dating red flags. Are you experiencing any of these in your relationship?

  1. I've isolated myself from my friends and/or family because of this relationship.
  2. My bf/gf has hurt me physically, even if they apologized after.
  3. If my bf/gf is upset with me, they don't hug, touch or kiss me as punishment.
  4. There are times when I feel pushed into having sex and/or being intimate with my bf/gf.
  5. We argue a lot, between ourselves and with other people.
  6. I sometimes feel teased or criticized by my bf/gf for the way I look, speak, act, or behave.
  7. One or both of us have a problem with drinking, drugs, gambling, or other compulsive behaviors, and isn't getting help for it.
  8. My bf/gf tells me what I should or shouldn’t do.
  9. One or both of us are very jealous people.
  10. There are times I don’t trust my bf/gf.
  11. I often feel worse after I spend time with my bf/gf.
  12. My bf/gf has lied to me on multiple occasions.
  13. One or both of us tries to 'fix' the other person.
  14. My bf/gf calls me names.
  15. I sometimes feel like I have to be very careful about what I say when I’m with them.
  16. We have significantly different views on faith and religion.
  17. One or both of us has significant emotional baggage from past relationships.
  18. I feel guilty for having friends, hobbies, or outside interests that don't include my bf/gf.
  19. My friends and/or family have told me they are worried about me and/or my relationship.
  20. One or both of us have threatened to end the relationship on more than one occasion.